A quiet dinner became a public showdown for 90 Day Diaries stars Emily Bieberly and Kobe Blaise. Their long-standing clash over parenting finally erupted in front of her parents and the cameras. A sweet family outing revealed just how far apart the couple is on raising their kids.
And judging by the way the table fell silent, everyone felt the shift.
Dinner Turns Sour Fast
Producers captured the moment everything flipped. Kobe pointed out that Emily lets the kids “run around in public places” and doesn’t hold them back. The comment landed hard.
Emily fired back immediately, demanding to know if their kids were acting wild because of her. Kobe stopped talking, and the silence said more than anything he could have answered.
Her parents froze. The kids kept eating. The tension didn’t go anywhere.
This wasn’t a loud fight, but it was the kind that hits deeper. Both tried to keep calm, but their expressions showed everything. One frustrated. One defensive. Both exhausted.
Awkward family dinner as Emily and Kobe argue over parenting styles 😟
— 90DayFiance (@90DayFiance) December 6, 2025
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Their Parenting Styles Couldn’t Be More Different
Emily describes herself as a “relaxed mom” who wants the kids to explore and make their own choices. She likes noise, movement, chaos, she sees it as learning.
Kobe sees it completely differently. His approach is structured, traditional, and firmly rooted in setting boundaries. To him, a restaurant is a place to sit still, not sprint between tables.
The couple has been clashing over this for years. Culture, upbringing, stress, and three kids—plus another on the way—make things worse.
And this episode didn’t pretend otherwise.
Team Kobe all the way! Kids need discipline and correction at home so they can behave in the real world! #90dayfiance #90DayDiaries
— Sheila🇸🇻🇨🇦 (@sheyfranco) December 9, 2025
A Growing Family, and Growing Pressure
Their life is already overflowing. A new baby on the way. A new house in Kansas. Three young kids who need round-the-clock attention. Fans have watched them handle diapers, midnight feeds, money stress, and chore battles.
But this dinner showed the real issue:
They don’t agree on how to raise their children, and the gap keeps widening.
Even their oldest son chimed in, smiling while saying his mom “just wants everyone to have fun.” A sweet comment, but one that made Kobe’s point stronger.
Every tiny decision seems to turn into a debate. How long to stay at the park. How loud is too loud. Who disciplines and when.
It’s not screaming. It’s not dramatic.
It’s a slow-building tension that eats away at both of them.
Emily's parents are also saints for letting them all live with them & help take care of their kids#90daydiaries#90dayfiance pic.twitter.com/BJsAR9HxpE
— 90DaySlay (@ChiButterScotch) October 4, 2025
The Fight That Says Everything
Emily’s face said she was tired of being painted as careless.
Kobe’s face said he was tired of being the strict one.
And in that restaurant, neither budged.
Fans have picked sides online. Some support Kobe’s structure, while others favor Emily’s flexibility. But the truth is blunt: with four kids, conflicting parenting styles won’t magically fix themselves.
This wasn’t just an awkward dinner.
It was a preview of a much bigger conversation that the couple can’t avoid forever.
