What should have been a relaxing spa day for 90 Day Fiancé couple Matthew and Greta turned into one of the season’s most awkward and revealing arguments.
“We’re spa people, aren’t we?” Greta smiled at the start of the clip.
“Every once in a blue moon, it’s pretty good, isn’t it?” Matthew replied, already sounding hesitant.
Greta admitted, “Well, I get massages quite often in Oklahoma. Like weekly massages.”
Matthew didn’t like that answer. “Having a massage every now and then is fine,” he said. “But once every week or two is probably a little too much.”
Greta fired back immediately. “If we’re being realistic, you bought an upgraded engine for your car and a very expensive computer. So I don’t really know what realistic means to you.”
It was the start of a surprisingly sharp argument that quickly exposed the cracks in their relationship.
90 Day Fiancé: “You Get a Happier Version of Me”: Greta Fires Back
Matthew tried to defend his stance. “We share the car, right? But I can’t share your spa expenses. We don’t both get something out of your massages.”
Greta clapped back, “You get a happier version of myself.”
Matthew’s reply made fans cringe. “I don’t think a happier version of you is very sustainable financially,” he said. “You probably need to reel it in a little bit.”
Fans immediately sided with Greta. “She’s right,” one person commented. “He’s acting like she’s draining his bank account when all she wants is self-care.”
Another fan wrote, “Matthew wasn’t even willing to clear space in his room for her. Be so fr.”
90 Day Fiancé: Money, Power, and Miscommunication
Matthew then tried to explain his worry, but his tone didn’t help. “If I stopped working today, I couldn’t afford the life that you want, and I’d lose you as a result,” he told her.
Greta’s reaction was calm but firm. “So you think I’m engaged to you for the money?” she asked.
Matthew quickly denied it but insisted, “To have things like this in life, it’s something that ultimately I have to foot.”
Greta pushed back again. “I assumed you went into finance because that’s who you are and that’s what you wanted, not because of me.”
It was a rare moment of clarity for Greta, and fans loved how composed she stayed.
90 Day Fiancé: Greta: “Let’s Not Keep Score on Sacrifices”
In her confessional, Greta said, “I’m really grateful that Matthew is supporting us. But I don’t want to start keeping score on each other’s sacrifices. That’s not a healthy foundation for a relationship.”
That line instantly became a fan favorite. “Let’s not keep score on our sacrifices, I love that,” one viewer wrote.
Another added, “She’s emotionally mature and calm. He’s turning everything into a power struggle.”
90 Day Fiancé: Fans Defend Greta: “She Gave Up Everything for Him”
Comments poured in with fans showing sympathy for Greta’s side. “She gave up her entire life to be with him,” one said. “Let her have her massages!”
Others made light of it. “If I’m giving up my cat,” one joked, “I’m getting weekly massages.”
A few even encouraged her to walk away. “Send her back to Oklahoma ASAP,” one viewer said. “She deserves better.”
Another fan pointed out Matthew’s hypocrisy: “He buys expensive gadgets but criticizes her for self-care. Make it make sense.”
90 Day Fiancé: An Argument That Revealed Everything
By the end of the scene, the couple had reached an uneasy truce. Matthew told her, “We’re all ready to come up for your massages now.”
Greta forced a smile. “Sounds good. Feeling very tense.”
It was the perfect line to end a painfully awkward conversation.
This moment revealed what fans have sensed all season: Greta is trying to build a life with someone who seeks control. Meanwhile, Matthew struggles to accept a partner who won’t just agree.
Was Matthew being realistic or controlling about money?
