Catie has given 90 Day Fiancé viewers a lot to process this season, but two moments landing so close together have created the sharpest contradiction yet. Days after pressuring fiancé Josh to convert to Lutheranism, a request fans already found uncomfortable, Catie told her bridesmaids at her bachelorette party that she wants to open their marriage at some point down the line.
She explained that the idea of having sex with only Josh for the rest of her life felt boring to her. Her bridesmaids reportedly sat in stunned silence.
The Double Standard Viewers Keep Pointing Out
Wanting an open relationship is a legitimate choice for plenty of couples, and nothing about that preference is inherently a problem. What has fans reacting is the timing and the contrast: someone pushing a partner toward her specific religious framework one week, then describing monogamy inside that same framework as boring the next.
Several viewers argued that combination doesn’t track. They questioned how someone can lean on strict religious upbringing to justify pressuring Josh’s faith, then brush past that same framework’s expectations around marriage when it doesn’t suit her. Some fans went further, speculating that Catie is polyamorous and using religion selectively, molding it to fit whatever she wants in the moment rather than following it consistently. That read is fan speculation rather than anything Catie has confirmed about her own identity, but the underlying criticism, that she applies her faith unevenly, is one a lot of viewers landed on independently.
A Different Side, Just Before The Bombshell
What makes the timing even stranger is that Catie spent a recent heart-to-heart with Josh trying to prove the opposite: that she could be trusted.
In a sneak peek set before her bachelorette party, Catie told Josh she wanted to show him she could have fun with her friends without crossing any lines. She said she was not interested in hooking up with anyone else. She wanted her behavior to reassure him ahead of the wedding, and Josh said hearing that from her, unprompted, felt good since she had not offered that kind of accountability before.
The two even built out ground rules together. Josh asked her not to get intimate with others, so they agreed on rule one: no making out with other people. He suggested avoiding blackout drinking, which became rule two. Catie added her own rule three: no throwing up in public. Josh laughed and agreed that one would be an improvement.
That conversation reads like real progress. Then the bachelorette party happened, and the open marriage comment undid a lot of the goodwill in one sentence.
Why Josh Keeps Struggling To Trust Her
The pattern fans keep pointing to is not really about any single incident. It is the gap between what Catie promises and what she does next. She reassures Josh she can be trusted, then introduces an idea, non-monogamy, that directly contradicts the commitment she just tried to demonstrate.
Whether or not an open marriage is something Josh would ever consider, springing it on her bridesmaids days after a loyalty pep talk is a different kind of blow. It is exactly the whiplash that has made him grow quieter throughout the season.
For a couple already working through trust issues, timing turned out to be the real problem here, not just the idea itself.
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